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Old Oct 30, 2021, 02:56 PM
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Originally Posted by SprinkL3 View Post
Wanting only feel-good responses in cases like this is unrealistic because (a) one or more people are constantly being abused and neglected, and (b) a child is involved. Unfortunately, you can't tell a victim that it's okay to stay in an abusive, harmful relationship and then just comfort the victim when the victim does, in fact, have choices that are healthier. That would be enabling and condoning such behaviors to continue.
I agree with these statements (and the rest of what you wrote).

I think people here are trying to encourage you (the OP) to make a healthy choice here.

Also, twice in two different threads you (the OP) have stated that the relationship is "beyond repair". Since you feel that way, what is there left to try and salvage?

I agree that staying for the sake of the child can be even more damaging for the child to witness a toxic relationship and/or affairs.
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