Jennifer, I don't know what to say to this. I don't want to hurt you, but I cannot understand that this is America. Where I live we can have help in the home (to do housework) for sick people (long term sick) and it doesn't cost much. We can have a nurse come home to us if we are very sick (long term sick). When my father was ill (terminal) a nurse came every day and looked after him and a GP now and then when he was at his death bed. Sometimes it can happen that there is not enough nurses like now in the pandemic time.

I wish you well living in a situation that puts great demands on you!