I think the fact that you want to navigate these challenges in away that is not abandoning this 13 year old that has bonded with you on such a deep level. Thirteen is a very vulnerable age where he is not a baby but also not an adult and is not very skilled.

He is going to be watching you as you navigate through this challenge with his father. Sadly both his parents have not considered his welfare. The important thing to focus on is the failure is in the father and has nothing to do with this child’s worth. (Or your worth).

We can hope someone we care about is respectful and honest but there are times the person is just not what we hoped. It never means we don’t deserve the honesty and respect.