It’s just when I was overweight as a teenager I was always talked about how much I was eating and how poorly I was eating and fast and how much I needed to lose weight and lay off the food. Yet my family continued to buy unhealthy foods like chips and candy and we didn’t learn about healthy eating at all. Then when I gained back my weight in 2013 after losing it in 2012 my mom and therapist and doctor gave me a really hard time about it. My mom said I didn’t look as good as I used to when I gained 10 pounds back. And then I just kept getting more and more crap from all 3 of them. Then in like early 2015 my mom said it was my fault I gained the weight back because I stopped excercisng. I started losing weight again in 2015 and then during Covid my mom started losing weight in April 2020 and she’s lost like I don’t know. 40 pounds. But now she’s gaining it back and she’s complaining and it just seems very hypocritical because I don’t comment on what she’s eating or say that she doesn’t look as good as she used to. I try to give out helpful suggestions like “you can walk in the afternoon.” And she’ll say “oh I won’t have the motivation then.” Or she’ll talk about getting slim Fast and I’ll offer her one of my Atkins shakes which I think are better so she can try it out before spending $22 on a box and she she’ll turn me down. I honestly don’t even notice a difference in her weight. But I just feel like I got nagged on for years for no reason back then and it’s causing issues now. Now when I inhale a chili cheese dog she doesn’t say anything because it was never about how fast I was eating it was always about my weight.

Does anyone know how to talk to her about this without getting her all sensitive and upset?