What an utterly heartbreaking situation. I am so sorry you were put in such an unfair and distressing place. Wish I knew what to say that would help.

Having never been married or had children, I am really the last person on earth to offer ideas. Hopefully others here with more experience and insight will see your post and respond to it with something truly helpful. My heart goes out to you and I am so, so sorry I don't know how to help!