My T and I have strengthened our relationship because I was able to be honest with her about when she seems like she's not understanding what I'm saying, or when I feel hurt by what she said in response to me or a part of me. That's all part of therapy.

You can ask yourself why you feel triggered when defending your T, even after posting about your T? Do those triggers stem from past childhood experiences? People who have had to deal with substance-abusing parents, or abusive parents, or neglectful parents often inadvertently learn that it's NOT okay to confront their feelings to those in positions of power, or those in certain "close" relationships. Your T should be able to help you with this if you are honest with her about your posting here, about how you felt regarding her reaction to your statement about the job coach, and about your fears of your relationship with your T (along with any triggers that you felt with our responses online here and/or in session with your T). She should be trained in helping unpack all of these things and assisting you with finding a path that works best for you.

If, however, your T was correct in her assessment of you, and you were incorrect in your assessment of what she said initially, then that's a different story, a different trigger, and another reason why our responses would also be triggering. We are only responding to what we read, and we are doing the best based on our own experiences. I'm in my late-40s and have experienced over 20 years of different T's and different treatments - some that were okay, some that were not okay. Many of us have recognized these different patterns in life, things that tend to come up with coaches, mentors, and/or T's, so that is why it sparked our interest to read and then respond, hoping to offer some helpful advice. If, however, you have certain issues that are beyond what you had mentioned here, then all we can do is hope that you are able to find what you're needing in T, given all the unspoken variables.

Wishing you the best with healing with your T and finding a better direction - whether you stay with your coach or move on to other areas, or maybe a combo of both.