Thank you, @WovenGalaxy

I'm glad you didn't omit anything. I sometimes omit stuff when it's too much info, but I try to share as much detail as possible (hence, my wordiness) to paint a bigger picture. But then again, people might not see the bigger picture when too many words are there. LOL. I'm glad I'm not the only wordy one here.

I'm sure you'll work things out with your T.

Overall, if the goal is to maintain a good relationship with your T while finding resources that will help you in a similar way as that coach, then perhaps you can figure out what you truly need. Sometimes we focus so much on the relationship mishaps (like the T's reaction to what you said about the coach), that you lose sight on the bigger picture - your T seems stable, your coach does not seem stable, and your objective is to really find help with some sort of job, career, or voc rehab that the coach was supposed to provide.

Perhaps if you reframe what your needs are, you can see that which you're avoiding by masking it with the relational mishaps with the coach and the T. You can repair the T stuff, since you said you like your T. Your coach probably needs to go. You can find a new coach or a mentor or just a support group to help you in a similar vein. But what exactly did the coach provide that you are still in need of? Are you satisfied with your job title, your job, your pay, the direction you're heading for a career path? Is that what you truly need, and would you like your T to affirm your goals? If so, those could be great talking points you can bring up with your T, too. Perhaps your T could help you with that instead of your coach?? Just another thought.