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Originally Posted by poshgirl
Cinnamonsun
A rhetorical question here. Which is better, a small group of sincere friends or a large group who don't care about you, only pretend to?
We can often fall into the trap of wanting lots of friends so leave ourselves open to the kind of behaviour you've experienced. Please be aware that I'm not blaming you. Humans are social beings and in most cases, need interaction with other humans. Sadly, we often don't have the life experience to apply a filter.
You are not a horrible person. You're just implementing what many are too scared to do, so remain in so-called friendships that are toxic. I agree with other posters, block them. Move on. Yes, you will question your actions at first even with a touch of guilt. Over time, their behaviour will take less space in your thoughts.  |
Yes, this is the lesson I learned from this experience. I'm much more selective these days about people I let close to me. I've decided I won't even look for support in people on this website. I have a therapist and this community if I encounter problems and need someone to talk to. After my confidential conversations were shared with others, I don't trust anyone on there. Even if they seem like a decent person. I never know if what I share and seek for support will get back to people who want to bully, harass or abuse me.
I would rather have a small group of genuine real friends. There was a time recently where I said I'd rather be alone then surrounded by fake friends. I've also learned how to support and nurture myself more. So despite the bad experience, good things came out of it that I am thankful for.