Thank you so much Kit. I am in awe of your ability not only to find what it was that you needed in that moment, but also to recognise that it wasn't what you needed longer term. It sounds very similar to me, but I am terrified of getting entangled with someone that I know I will only have to walk away from in time. I don't know if I can do that, so maybe it is better that I don't succumb to that desire in the first place.

That said, I think you are right that I do need the space and time to grieve for Ex T. I do need to feel some of those feelings again, too, and I do need to give myself the time and space that feels right here. I'm hoping that Potential New T can help me to see that I am allowed that with her, here, and that she will help me to 'grow out of that' in time, too.