My husband of 8 years lost my trust in our 3rd year of marriage. Sometimes I get so tired of always worrying and wondering if he is talking to another woman inappropriately. A couple of weeks ago I found deleted parts of a conversation where he told the secretary at his office she had a tush to die for. I could only see one side of the conversation but it started with "what do I get out of this deal" "don't tease""whatever" "it's just your cuteness" "darling you've got a tush to die for" "liar!" "Truth!". I have no idea what she was saying to any of this but in my head it wasn't a good Convo for a married man to be having. Then last week I found a conversation before he got it deleted she said dang you left too soon!!!! He said lol she said you did I dressed up. He said well hell as what she said bad sandy from grease then he told her to take a pic and show him on Monday and she said she would. I confronted him and at first he acted like he didn't know what I was talking about. Then when I started reading the Convo he said none of the other guys at work like her and he is trying to be nice to her. He said he didn't see anything wrong with it.

Part of me is like can my husband be that stupid or does he just think I am that stupid. How are we supposed to gain back any trust in our relationship if he talks to other women like that. I don't want us to be doomed but how do you have a relationship without trust???? I am so torn and unsure of what to do, think, or feel right now