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Originally Posted by Molinit
Trying to have a relationship with someone whose brain won't allow him to be happy is an exercise in futility for you. Project yourself 2 years from now if you "stayed" with him - and I put that in quotes because he has 100% control over being with you or not - in 2 years, you will probably have endured 4 or 5 breakups and would be kicking yourself for wasting 2 more years on this person.
Take some time away from dating but when you do begin again, don't go over old ground. He is someone who wouldn't even be a very good friend. He needs help you can't give him.
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That’s a great advice, thank you, I appreciate it. And the funny thing is that I’m just realizing that exact same thing has happened me before, and not once, but like 3-4 times at least:
After dating a month or two the men just “not sure” and become distant. We break up, then a month or so later they come back, when I already kinda moved on and picked up my pieces…
We get back together but after being doubted nothing is the same for me. I loose trust, and the foundation is wobbly, which actually makes the whole building come down after a certain point. So yeah, I have wasted 0.5-3 years with a few relationships…
I know, I’m just being stupid right now, because it’s still fresh, but what if this one is different? What if he could love me with his whole heart just that stupid anxiety… it’s fixable, isn’t it?
He told me he has been having self esteem issues for decades especially dating someone who he finds very pretty. And this: what we have is too good to be true…
I know… suck it up… and don’t let the history repeat itself! But he’s so amazing! That stupid anxiety… 😡
What does it mean don’t go over old ground? (I’m not native English)