I agree with the comments about about calling elder abuse in your local area on your leeching brother.
For him to have all those degrees, be unvaccinated, be neglectful toward your parents (his dependents), abuse the tax system by being a declared head of household as a caregiver to your parents when he's not doing the job properly, and much more, it could mean a lot of trauma, heartache, and abuse directly for your parents and indirectly (vicariously) to you and other caring members of your family.
The worst that will happen is an investigation will unfold either prompting your brother to take better care of your parents and be accountable now to the system (i.e., a geriatric social worker) or lose his rights as a caregiver and/or even face violations and/or criminal charges, depending on the jurisdiction. Caregivers to the elderly are under similar legal obligations as caregivers to children. They must make sure they are medically, emotionally, financially, and physically taking care of them.
There's the
2-1-1 or
3-1-1 non-emergency warm lines that your state and/or area offer (typically 24/7), if you're in the U.S.
There's the following two numbers you can call if you're in the U.S. (more information listed furthest below with web links tied to these two numbers):
• Elder Abuse Hotline: (800) 252-8966
• Elder Care Locator: (800) 677-1116
Here are additional resources:
National Institute on Aging
Quote:
Types of Abuse
There are many types of abuse:
Physical abuse happens when someone causes bodily harm by hitting, pushing, or slapping. This may also include restraining an older adult against his/her will, such as locking them in a room or tying them to furniture.
Emotional abuse, sometimes called psychological abuse, can include a caregiver saying hurtful words, yelling, threatening, or repeatedly ignoring the older adult. Keeping that person from seeing close friends and relatives is another form of emotional abuse.
Neglect occurs when the caregiver does not try to respond to the older adult's needs. This may include physical, emotional, and social needs, or withholding food, medications, or access to health care.
Abandonment is leaving an older adult who needs help alone without planning for his or her care.
Sexual abuse involves a caregiver forcing an older adult to watch or be part of sexual acts.
Financial abuse happens when money or belongings are stolen from an older adult. It can include forging checks, taking someone else's retirement or Social Security benefits, or using a person's credit cards and bank accounts without their permission. It also includes changing names on a will, bank account, life insurance policy, or title to a house without permission.
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Elder abuse will not stop on its own. Someone else needs to step in and help. Many older adults are too ashamed to report mistreatment. Or, they're afraid if they make a report it will get back to the abuser and make the situation worse.
If you think someone you know is being abused — physically, emotionally, or financially — talk with him or her when the two of you are alone. You could say you think something is wrong and you're worried. Offer to take him or her to get help, for instance, at a local adult protective services agency.
Many local, state, and national social service agencies can help with emotional, legal, and financial abuse.
The Administration for Community Living has a National Center on Elder Abuse where you can learn about how to report abuse, where to get help, and state laws that deal with abuse and neglect. Go to NCEA - Home for more information. Or, call the Eldercare Locator weekdays at 800-677-1116.
Most states require that doctors and lawyers report elder mistreatment. Family and friends can also report it. Do not wait. Help is available.
If you think someone is in urgent danger, call 911 or your local police to get help right away.
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Additionally, the Domestic Violence Website might also offer additional resources.
If your parents have experienced elder abuse victimization, the local Victim's Advocates might be able to offer compensation for the damages done, legal fees, pro-bono lawyers, relocation fees, respite for a new caregiver, a new temporary caregiver, etc.
The
National Center for Victims of Crime
Crime Victims Hotline: (866) 689-4357 (HELP)
DC Victim Hotline:
Call or Text 1-844-443-5732
Chat
Elder Abuse & Neglect
Victim Connect:
Email:
crisis@pathwaystosafety.org
1-855-4VICTIM (855-484-2846) or
chat.
The U.S. Department of Justice - Elder Justice
U.S. Senate Special Committee on Aging: Report scams affecting seniors to the U.S. Senate’s Committee on Aging Fraud Hotline at 1-855-303-9470 and read
Fighting Fraud: U.S. Senate Aging Committee Identifies Top 10 Scams Targeting Our Nation’s Seniors
FINRA: a resource to educate investors. You can conduct a background check on your investment professional or contact the
Securities Helpline for Seniors if you have questions or concerns about your investment accounts.
National Long-Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center: Locate your state or county’s Long-Term Care Ombudsman and they can look into concerns you have about treatment at a nursing home or assisted living facility.
Eldercare Locator: offers a helpline at 1-800-677-1116.
online chat, or email at
eldercarelocator@n4a.org to locate supportive resources in your community like home health aides or meals-on-wheels programs.
National Adult Protective Services Association: NAPSA’s Get Help Map assists in finding your local Adult Protective agency which y may be able to help by investigating your situation and connecting you to local support services or law enforcement.
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