@cinnamonsun, bizi offers a good suggestion here. Maybe give lactaid free milk and other dairy a try. My husband has been lactose intolerant for years and they allow him to eat dairy. Look for 100% lactose free milk. Lactaid brand is widely available, as are usually store brands. They tend to be a bit more expensive than regular milk, but worth it if you love cow's milk, which they are. Of course there are also milk substitutes like soy and almond "milks" but they're also a bit more expensive, and an acquired taste. Lactaid cow's milk obviously tastes like cow's milk. Again, because it is. Other frequently available cow's milk lactose free dairy products include:

• Sour cream - At least Lactaid brand
• Half and Half - Sold in milk aisle near the regular
• Yogurts (though Hubby has no problem with regular)
• Ice creams
• Some cheeses either made lactose free or naturally lactose free (or nearly). Usually the packaging says. Also see 9 Cheeses You Can Eat If You're Lactose Intolerant | Real Simple
• Pills that you can take with first bites of any real dairy that contains lactose. These pills supply the enzymes needed to digest lactose normally. Sold OTC in grocery stores, pharmacies and online. Hubby takes one for small amounts of lactose and two if a lot is eaten (i.e. ice cream)
• Cream - If available. I didn't find it in New Jersey, but saw it in Canada. It is widely available in cream obsessed Czech Republic in 10% fat and 30% fat versions that work just like regular ones.

Unless you are allergic to dairy, there is no reason you can't happily consume the above, if just lactose intolerant.