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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Hugs, Artie, that sounds really difficult... And it seems like, if she has the time available, there shouldn't be any reason why you couldn't just schedule time when you want it.
I wonder if she's maybe bothered (like countertransference perhaps) that you switched to going once a month? Not that you're at fault, because those decisions are up to you, but I wonder if maybe that she almost felt rejected or something?
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Thanks LT, that's an interesting thing to ponder - that she might have felt rejected too when we first talked about my not needing/wanting to come weekly anymore. I mean I had such a
fierce attachment to her for the longest time... maybe it
is something along those lines as she's feeling
me pulling away from
her. But then again, aren't they basically
supposed to work themselves out of a job with each client? I guess even if that's true, like she's always said it's a relationship and maybe they get attached to us, too...
You reminded me of something else she said during this - she did also say that I need to decide what I want that container to be. In my head I was snarkily thinking hello that's what I'm trying to DO right now. It's all good. I've done a little journaling about it this evening and I'm feeling better. Gonna let her deal with her, and I'll deal with me. And in December we can talk about the burning out thing.