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Originally Posted by Waterbear
Hey, Artie, I just wanted to say something, please excuse my forwardness and please ignore if not helpful... Maybe it's time for you to work on leaving your T? What that means for you. The hurt it will bring, the struggle to let go, what the future holds etc. I guess I'm only saying that because I see how powerful the relationship has been for you, like it was for me and my T, and because I never got the chance to 'end' properly. I wish I had had that chance. I wish with all my heart we could have talked through these feelings. Could have discussed possibilities. Could have felt the anger and hurt and yet been able to see she didn't want to cause it. Not sure if it makes any sense... But just felt I wanted to say that. Sorry for 'butting in'.
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thank you. i appreciate this
so much!
i just wrote about this in another thread before i saw your post and i'm starting to come to some similar conclusions, that it's time to work on leaving.... that the reason I went to monthly was because i was
afraid to make the decision to end, when in reality ending is what i want and need to do. yes it has been a most powerful relationship for me, and for her as well, and talking through all of this with her and then actually ending is what I need to do. I feel like I have made my decision.
And I'm sorry that you didn't have the chance to end properly with your t. I've wanted to comment on your posts about it and have started to more than once but just didn't have the right words, anything i tried to say felt so inadequate.