OMG. This guy is super dangerous. Classic overcontrolling and manipulative narcissist. You're probably an empath and he needs you like a drug. You have to be super careful as your life is literally in danger either way you stay or leave. Carefull planing in small steps. Let your family and friends know what is going on. Contact someone with experience in psychological/physical abuse. It's both in your case. You're a victim and i feel sorry about you. Please don't ignore red flags. As soon as he marries you, the monster will truly emerge.

Sadly, a lot of high powered doctors are ruthless narcissists. Those are the type of people who get to the top of the piramid. Look at the politicians, lol.