Yes @Rive. You said what I was thinking. My traumas caused me to apologize for everything for YEARS. If I was mistreated by someone it must be my fault so I apologize. Accepting abuse causes us to take on the responsibility of being abused and totally lets the asshole abusing or mistreating you off the hook. I dont think I have even heard of a form of manipulation using apologies to get what they need or want.
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Originally Posted by Rive.
Some people are conditioned into apologising for their very existence (e.g. from childhood or with significant partners). Maybe it is a hang-up of theirs or stems from painful experiences about how they learnt to survive and/or be accepted by others.
So, I would not be so quick to judge them as 'manipulative'.
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