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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark
My house caught fire in September, and the landlord said it'd be ready to be liveable in a few months.
I am very conflicted about returning to this place, I don't know how to feel about moving back into a place that had caught fire. The fire destroyed half the interior but saved the exterior, and the landlord is fixing up the place as we speak.
This place was the perfect place for me. It was my first home I moved out to, and it was a great location close to everything I need and close to parents, the house was just the right size, and I was madly in love with my house.
The fire was very traumatic for me, especially after going through the Tubbs fire, and there's a lot of mixed messages I receive from my loved ones, and I ask their opinion because I really don't know how I feel about the situation...
Grandparents said they'd hop back in in a Jiffy, bestie would be apprehensive, therapist says it'd be much safer now and says yes, parents think God/Karma kicked me out for a reason, coworker said he personally went back into a house that burnt down in childhood and says yes...
...What do you think? If your house caught fire or burned down, would you want to move back in?
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yes I would and yes I have. I actually enjoyed moving back into the home that a fire happened in. heres the thing. my home that had a fire in it had all new walls, new sinks new flooring. no matter where I live I would have PTSD problems associated with the fire. PTSD symptoms are not that selective where they only happen in the building that once was on fire. they happen anywhere any time. so the memories of the fire will always be there for me, just talking with a friend while out a diner can cause my memories, emotions about that traumatic event to pop up. no matter if I move back in or not those PTSD things are going to happen.
what I did was worked with a mental health treatment provider on my PTSD problems while the house was being remodeled (your word fixed up) Then when the building was up to state and county codes I, myself and my family back into the same home where the kitchen and living room and one bedroom had been distroyed by fire. we all had a great time comparing before the fire and after the fire differences. we all had a great time rearranging new furniture,
heres an important thing about fires. in many situations they are actually considered a good thing. they promote new fresh start, new fresh life, new fresh growth. we see it every day out in nature where a devastating fire has led to new plant growth, now lease on life, and new attitudes.
my family and I have lost a home from a hurricane and we have had fire and floods. each time except the hurricane sandy we fixed up the old and moved back in. with each disaster we have experienced we have grown individually and as a family unit. we are less materialistic and more center focused on living life not on the negatives but rather on the positives.
life is going to happen, what we make of that life is up to us. thats my family's moto. we use the negatives to better ourselves and our lives.
you now have a chance to have a fresh new life, with a fresh newly rebuilt home that meets todays buildings codes and so on. you now have the chance to enjoy refurnishing a brand new home for your fresh new life. the memories of the fire will naturally subside and if they dont well Im guessing you have already been dealing with those memories even while not living in that newly remodeled place. PTSD is not selective. its going to happen and probably has already been happening all this time since the fire. and its going to continue happening no matter where you live anyway.
the choice is your's of course, for me and my family we moved right back in for a fresh new life together.