I usually struggle with saying something right in the moment, unless it makes me really mad. But if it's something that still bothers me a few days later, I always bring it up. So far, it has never went badly. We talk it through, T apologizes for missteps and explains what was going on, what he meant, whatever is needed. I think if I'd not tell him, it would erupt at some point and I'd rather resolve it when it's fresh.