Ok. I get that he is disrespecting me. And I get being disrespectful does not make him a good husband. I guess I could say comparatively he is good because he isn't abusive like my last ex and he isn't anything like my first husband. But I KNOW he is in the wrong. I guess what I am looking for is IF we agree to work on our issues and try to save the marriage how do we do that? How do you make a marriage survive betrayal. I see people talking about it all the time and saying their marriage is stronger now that. It was before but I want to know how to get to that place.