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Default Nov 25, 2021 at 04:09 AM
 
I have Autism, Selective Mutism and Social Anxiety so making new friends face-to-face is very challenging as some social situations are so overwhelming it shuts me down and I can't speak.

I used to have a few deaf friends cos I was taught sign but my issues were more due to the autism and sound & language processing than a hearing loss (of volume.. ie not being able to hear sound at all).


I had no understanding of this back then I've only found out these last few years about auditory processing disorder with the pandemic too and not being able to see people I've just lost contact and connection with the deaf friend.


My siblings partner is nice and fun! but due to pandemic only really socialised at my siblings house which is where I grew up so feel comfortable enough to speak there.


I know if they split I probably wouldn't see her again (none of the past partners have kept in touch) but I treat her as my 'new bestie' cos its convenient... it makes me seem more normal that I can say I have a friend and I get to see both sibling and friend at same time which cuts down amount of social visits I have to do cos they aren't seperate people who don't know each other!


I keep reading about how social contact is important but what if its more stressful than anything else? how is it more beneficial to your MH if you get overwhelmed in public places and struggle to relate to people?...what if just playing video games gives me the same enjoyment a 'normal person' would get from meeting a friend for a cuppa weekly or daily?


Is there anyone else who really genuinely struggles with friendships or any expectation of relationship other than a very simple platonic one from people who don't expect too much of you?
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