You guys seem to have pretty good Ts..

I like what you said daisydid i.e. we are their boss and we decide whether to continue with them or not.

And, nottrustin, I hear you re telling T... a part of me *really* wants to.

I have to admit there is an underlying fear(?) that if I were to speak, T would get defensive or angry etc. and T would be the one to dump me...!