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Originally Posted by ruby2011
I don’t like being perceived as scary or threatening. At first, I thought they were paranoid. For years, I refused to admit anything I did was wrong. I’m not working there anymore. Friday was my last day. I have to realize that everyone who told me I was wrong couldn’t all be wrong. I’m really trying to put myself in their shoes and actually try to feel (not just cognitively understand) why people are scared.
I can’t go into details about what exactly happened. Cuz it’s that bad. But I know I don’t want to keep having good feelings towards the next person who is nice to me. Once I FEEL someone is my favorite person, I literally cannot control it.
PS. Sometimes I be passive aggressive towards customers in very subtle way. They don’t think I’m passive aggressive, just stupid. But they do get annoyed. That’s another side effect of my favorite person refusing to talk to me anymore.
Idk. I realize I’m wrong. But I’m still too shaken up currently
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ruby2011, it's great you are realizing that you have been in the wrong. And I think you CAN control your behavior towards other people. Feelings may be difficult to control, but behavior can certainly be controlled. We have a choice in how we respond to our emotions and feelings. We can give into them, or we can acknowledge them and CHOOSE another more appropriate behavior in response. For example, you chose to curse and yell at your coworkers in response to the GM distancing himself from you. Instead, you could have chosen to remain nice and courteous to all those around you. But you took out your feelings on everyone else around you.
So what happened at McD's? Did you get fired? You say you cannot talk about it because it's THAT bad, which makes me think you were fired or told not to come back.