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Old Nov 28, 2021, 12:56 PM
Cardooney Cardooney is offline
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Originally Posted by Rive. View Post
Why should you have compassion towards someone who treats you poorly?

Having compassion does not mean letting others trample all over us, disrespect our boundaries and/or be abusive towards us.

You can also have compassion and enforce your boundaries so that people treat you respectfully. This is not selfish or being mean - this is basic self-care / self-respect.
Exactly. I can’t have compassion for him when he treats me poorly. And I must have respect for myself and good boundaries, and self care. He struggles with a serious mental health condition, so I do take that into consideration. We’ve never had an easy relationship since we both came from dysfunctional families. I needed three years of counseling to build up boundaries self care and self respect.
I can’t stand him when his behavior is obnoxious. I feel bad for him or worried when his thinking is off. It’s just hard and the whole thing needs work.
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