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Originally Posted by Rive.
Why should you have compassion towards someone who treats you poorly?
Having compassion does not mean letting others trample all over us, disrespect our boundaries and/or be abusive towards us.
You can also have compassion and enforce your boundaries so that people treat you respectfully. This is not selfish or being mean - this is basic self-care / self-respect.
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Exactly. I can’t have compassion for him when he treats me poorly. And I must have respect for myself and good boundaries, and self care. He struggles with a serious mental health condition, so I do take that into consideration. We’ve never had an easy relationship since we both came from dysfunctional families. I needed three years of counseling to build up boundaries self care and self respect.
I can’t stand him when his behavior is obnoxious. I feel bad for him or worried when his thinking is off. It’s just hard and the whole thing needs work.