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Originally Posted by Cardooney
we have an unhealthy dynamic- I’m not sure if it’s an unhealthy dynamic entirely, or just unhealthy when there is a disagreement. The basis of our disagreements are often absolutely ridiculous, too.
he acts out to anyone because he lacks interpersonal skills to do better. And I guess because he has inner turmoil.
Ive talked to him about this before—how his communication is not positive and won’t help him. Sometimes he might agree, or more often he’ll say he doesn’t have capacity for other peoples sensitivity. he will blame the other person. He might later blame himself but it doesn’t help anything.
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Is he in therapy? Are you in therapy together? I would insist that he goes to therapy to work on his behaviors. And perhaps a couples counselor can help bring the issues to light to work through. Otherwise, I'm afraid you're going to continue to be vexed by his behaviors and it will eventually drive you away and apart.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Nov 28, 2021 at 02:26 PM.
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