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Originally Posted by hvert
GoGo2 I find setting my expectations lower can help a lot. When we set unrealistic expectations and then don't meet them, it makes us feel bad about ourselves, which makes it harder to get started. If I set the bar low and start meeting my goals, it seems to set up a positive feedback loop. It's especially tough when there is a medical issue on top of depression because it's hard to tell what's causing what. I hope the weekend off helps.
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Thank you so much for the advice! I have rested through the whole weekend. Not that I have been in bed, but I did things in a slow motion. I woke up at 11.00 am, ate breakfast and viewed a sermon online. I had the curtains down, as if I felt too tired to draw them off the windows. I use to have a seven armed candle stick (electric) in a window during advent. It was almost dark before I draw the curtain and put the candle stick in the window. I used a long time putting the four advent candles at their place and I lighted the first candle. I bought a "just to heat dinner" yesterday, so I have had my meals. This slow motion felt wonderful. I have one more "quick to make dinner" for tomorrow, so I think I will continue this slow process Monday.
I think I am depressed and that this "just do what you are able to do" has lowered the depression for today. I will continue to take care of myself and do "things" in slow motion. There is no point to hurry. I am invited out for Christmas, so my goal, the way I see it for the moment, is to be able to be in a good mood for the celebration, so that we all can have a good time together during the season. I also have a friends gathering for dinner at a restaurant in the middle of December. I need to be relaxed and in good shape for that as well. My family will probably cancel the concert we were going to listen to together because of Corona. We have a new wave of people going to the hospital due to Corona here ...
Thanks again for your advice!
