I was looking for the support group and found your post. Here's my current situation.

20yrs of marriage and heading for divorce. I didn't expect it when my husband told me so I was shocked. He told me he's been living and serving for others in his life and now he wants to live his life for himself. He wants to find the purpose of his life.

Long story short, I found out he already met someone lives in outside of US. So, they haven't seen each other, just video chat and email. He told me that we've been separated for a while and doesn't think anything wrong with it. I've never peeked into his cell or email before but I found out they are exchanging emails like lovers and also found out they met a matching site. When I saw his browsing history, I also found out he's been searching for very young women on the site.

We have 12 and 18 years old daughters. Now, I'm living with them and he is living at his sister's place. I just couldn't understand why he couldn't wait to start new relationship until our marriage is officially over.

I'm just wondering after read your post. Why do you still want her back? Is it love or attachment? I realized one day that I just have an attachment with this marriage, not love towards him. Then, I let go. It took for a year and a half since he told me to divorce, he moved to the apartment, found out about another woman, he moved to his sister's and found out about the matching site. Now I'm working on selling the house and still working on divorce forms. We're filling uncontested divorce. I just can't wait until everything is over.

I hope things go well for you.