lol.."want" to share" Hmmm...Yes...it is very frustrating and hard.
While I wont get into too many particulars or sore spots because I have major trust issues...I'll tell you what I can and maybe(?) it will either help knowing you arent alone...or will help in your situation...dunno.
Anyway,...I was legally divorced on September 11,2001(go figure) some symbolism there....two towers falling down....
we were together 12 years...4 beautiful Babies. My life, for the most part was bein a Mommy.
He took something wrong he found(which he later...too later, admitted) and I came home from shopping for my sons bday present to find my stuff packed and a note to leave, that he had also called the police if I dint go "peacefully'..A small history to let you know,...this man was extremely controlling.....ANyway, I was niave and didnt know better and believed what he said in his note and I left.
But his plan didnt work about the part wher4e I always go back. I got brave enough and stood my ground.
Anyway...He had a good job....therefore a good attorney,...I was always mommy, therefore...a legal attorney,..if you can call ehr that...was very ugly and hopeless....the gameshe played during it all were immense...for me and my children.
the only good thing I can say, 2 year anniversary jsut past...is that he's finally grown up a little bit....let somer of his own anger die(at himself though he wont admit it) and quit trying so hard to constantly hurt me...I dont know why...or what brought it on...but I tried tomaintain friendly contact and keep the "other" comments to myslef or out of his earshot. Now mind you...he said and did MANY horrible things I would aloved to choke him for....but I had my kids to think about and what would it really have accomplished in the end?...Im not sure if that helped at all...but I know it could have been worse...It was very ugly and alot of things happened Im not rpepared to "share" on this Forum....but if you need someone to hold your hand or trry to answer a question you can PM me as well. seeking...Serenity