Oh, I’m sorry. I think that I didn’t explain well myself. Of course there are situations where you are the target of misdemeanours from other people, even the target of abuse. I wasn’t referring to these objective situations.

I was referring to a psychological mechanism, most of the times, used to prevent you from taking action of facing to your fears.

I should have put this in the social anxiety forum or the dependent personality disorder.
I do understand I may have confused people. I’m sorry.