We're both men. I am the only one who worked, I was the caretaker, provider! I was the one who does the shopping, the cleaning, the cooking, the laundry and more while he never worked, doesn't do anything in the apartment except complain over every tiny little thing and ordered me around. I had to take time off work to care for him for weeks which ended up losing income for the rent and food. I had to ask my parents for help. I didn't like asking them to help because I felt like a lousy son who was begging for help even though I hadn't asked for help for 7 years. My ex husband tried to brain me with a weapon and had called me the worst provider when I told him I have no money for food or rent.