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Originally Posted by DevastatedinAZ
Gotcha.
You are correct. She blames me for everything. I have often thought who will she blame once this is over and I am gone? The only constant in her equation/life will be herself. I love her dearly still and this is sad to witness her change.
I cannot imagine having younger children. My son will be coming home from University for the Holiday and already told her that he is sleeping at my house in his room. She doesnt have room for him. But he will visit her whenever he can. I think he holds her accountable to breaking the family apart.
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The point is that you children are adults and they understand everything. Sooner or later they will have a clear idea who is responsible.
But the key point here is that after the age of 13 children do not really care whether their parents live together or not. What they need is to know that they have father and mother and that both parents will have their back and support them in difficult situations.
At least you will see your children whenever they want to see you and nobody will create a problem out of this.
The fact that you still love her will make it difficult for you to recover and it will take plenty of time, considering that you were together for 27 years. So just try to find yourself some hobbies and activities and keep yourself busy.