Yes Tessa!

She has already secured an attorney. I did not until recently. I have been true to my narrative in wanting to reconcile so we can stay together. I have spilled my guts out with feelings, plans, things to change… clearly to much info… She until recently only gave me tidbits of how she feels. So I continued working with her, being open in hoping that we can find a path through this period of time.

There was a period of 2.5-3 weeks recently where we were talking every other day, texting every day, being silly, teasing, joking… and she said she would think about couples therapy. (I thought we might be building something new) She research it and agreed that it is quite effective IF both spouses can give 100%. But that in the beginning, she was not there yet. So give her time to think about it. I was on cloud 9. Then the day before TGiving, she dropped the hammer, told me she is done! She doesn’t want therapy! She doesn’t want reconciliation! She is done! Broke me in 2 over her knee. Devastated all over again. Later that day, I reviewed and signed the retainer for my attorney and I am waiting for her to be notified (and the courts) that I now have legal representation. She will most likely panic and freak out now.

Yeah, I think we are past a separation agreement I believe. She filed, I responded (all kids info is there) and now the attorneys are involved and I have to complete legal paperwork. Fun.