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Originally Posted by Tjpg
Hey Jeff
Yes that is a definite do not recommend on the dating. Also, ghosting hurts. A lot.
Okay I'm happy to hear that you can relate with the magical toxic people that just appear out of nowhere, giving their opinions and advice from their own ****** relationships and literally persuading the person you once knew to be their worst possible self.
These people are his own now🤷
I feel like the person I knew forever has changed, but he knows it too. I even told him that I thought he was becoming a giant asshole and you know what he said to that? "I know." ......
People change and thats fine, but when they are changing for the worst and there is nothing you can do to stop it, try and find solace in the fact that they wont be your problem anymore. That has helped me through. I can imagine you are dealing with this harder than I am and again, I'm sorry. Some of the comments my ex has made just seems so out of anything he would ever say. I guess I am just putting it out there so that you are aware of every angle that I have been hit from.
You will definitely have wonderful Christmas's again, I promise you that. Just not this year. And it wont be bad, just different, but you've got this! This year is proving to be easier than the last for me if it helps... How amazing will it be to have it be just you and your son? You can do whatever you want! You can make it so special with just that. And then your son will feel like he could truly be there for you too, like you have been for him through out his life. Plan something small and nice, it will give you something to look forward too as well!
Tessa
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Well, at least he is honest in that regard, right? He admitted to what he was becoming… (shaking my head)
You are so right. The girl I met, was struck by lightning with, developed a friendship and then a relationship, married, had kids, the house… has changed. She likes to say she is a strong, independent woman in life… Which I totally supported and appreciated. But now… seems like she needs to talk to her “bullpen” after our discussions to see how best to respond. And then responds back to me with a negative answer. So she has trouble thinking for herself. She appears to be constantly hanging out and needs attention from the male gender. (including messing with me so I fall all over her) Co-dependent. My friend is convinced she has become a miserable, angry, bitter and low self-esteem 17yo girl trapped in a 42yo woman’s body. He is always quite descriptive. hehe
I was thinking about that… I grew up with her, I took care of her, I did anything I could for her… I am even trying to pave ways with other vball parents to cut her some slack this year and welcome her into the team group. And one dad said I am too nice… Still trying to defend her and that is admirable after all these years. But she is on her own now to develop those relationships with other parents or to NOT develop those relationships with other parents. And so far, she has ZERO interest in talking to anyone or getting to know them. So they look at her like she is the dragon lady.
Yeah, thank you. But like you said… She wont be my problem anymore… Never thought I would have to say that… I was ready and prepared for the long haul. I wont have to worry about all the medical issues or the food/gluten allergy anymore… Just live some sort of normal life again.
You are right! I get all emotional when he says he is choosing to stay with me so I am not a lone and we can hang together. Just blows me away… As my support group says, that is a testament to me for the young man I have raised as I am the role model. Makes me so proud.
Jeff