Hello workinonit: Since this is your first post, welcome to MSF. I hope you find the forums to be of benefit.

You asked if members who read your post think your wife may return if you truly give her space or are the two of you done? Personally I don't think that is a question any of us are going to be able to answer. What I would suggest, though, is that some individual therapy for yourself may be in order here so that you can figure out what to do (as well as not do) next with this situation as well as how you are feeling about it.

You mentioned reading here on MSF, researching and journaling. To my mind reading, researching and journaling are fine. But they're not a solution in-&-of themselves. Ultimately you need to talk this all through at-length and in-depth with a skilled professional. The same would perhaps be useful for your wife as well. But, of course, whether-or-not to see a therapist herself is a decision your wife must make on her own, assuming she's not already doing so.

Perhaps, down-the-road so to speak, some marriage counseling may be something else that will be useful if your wife can find it within herself to re-think how she's feeling as well as acting toward your marriage. As I'm sure you are well aware, though, you can't make her do something she's just dead set against doing. If she's simply unwilling to do anything to try to save your marriage then it may well in fact be coming to an end. At least these are my thoughts with regard to your post. My best wishes to you both.