Oh, I'm sorry. I understand how this would particularly affect you because of what happened with your former T. But even without that experience, it would be painful.

I have struggled when my therapist has talked about how we have a "professional relationship" (though he has avoided that phrase lately) and when things like money come up that emphasis the transactional nature of the relationship. And the professional relationship is also why he's willing to say "I care about your well-being" but not "I care about you." (This led to a bit of a rupture at one point.) He's also mentioned something before about how he has no intention of leaving, but you can never know anything for sure (I get his not wanting to make promises that he doesn't know he can keep, like ex-MC did) and that I could just find another therapist if that happened. Which was difficult to hear. Oh, and his existential stuff about how all relationships end at some point, even if it's through death.

That was a long paragraph to say I get why you're reacting this way, even if intellectually you know what her intention was. And I've had the day-later (or hours later) reaction as well--Dr. T has started calling it a "therapy grenade." I forget whether you're able to do outside contact with her. If so, could you maybe send her an email/text or request a phone call to tell her how you're reacting and clarify her meaning? Or to potentially meet with her sooner than the next scheduled session? Hugs, if wanted.