Jeff,

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I feel like you are narrating my future. I was only married for 2 years together for seven so I won't even compare other than the separation. My kids are from my first marriage so I don't have that issue either but they love her so it's tough on them too. I'm still holding out hope but also have it stuck in my head how could we come back from this and do I really want to be with someone that can run away and make it seem like the decision to "try" is so hard.

Having been through a divorce with kids involved, for me, don't get hung up on the personal possessions, keep the kids the number one priority. My parents split when I was young and they were awful to each other. I vowed to not do that hat to my kids. It sounds like you are the level headed, bigger person just don't let her actions pull you down to her level. Hang in there, one day at a time. You will get through it.

Tom