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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
As far as your other post comrade, I am making sure I own my parts, my issues, my baggage, and my dance. That is easy to do for me. I turn the blame onto myself. It's safer that way. I know it's a coping mechanism. It's familiar and it's safer. If it's my fault then maybe I can fix it. And if I can fix it, then maybe they won't leave me.
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This illustrates my point really. You are assuming responsibility for things which aren't yours. You can fix, you can avoid her leaving, and so on. These are things which are beyond your control and yet you are mixing it all up together and trying to be you and decide how she will be too. Owning your parts also means only owning your parts. Blame and baggage don't help you work out your boundaries.