He is not in therapy. He just checks in with a psych to continue pills once every six months? Year? It’s not often. He has said in the past that he doesn’t need it and that only I do (he knows that’s a lie), or he’s said he doesn’t have the capacity for it. He is easily triggered and often edgy. He distracts himself constantly. It must be uncomfortable. We had a couples session scheduled for today (first one) but he bowed out. He cleaned up his mess instead. 1700 lbs of junk to the dump. So I guess he did his own therapy that way.
I definitely will continue to be vexed. I’ve been telling him his behavior is annoying almost every day lately. I’m nice about it, if that makes sense. I just now said he is a brat. He didn’t disagree. He tries to dominate and control in ridiculous ways. It used to terrify me. Then I tried to stay strong and not play his game, just tell him what’s what and walk away. Still scary but helped. Lately, he just annoys me or his behavior infuriates me because his choices effect me, and he doesn’t seem to care. Sometimes (rarely) when he acts like this, I feel sorry for him because it’s so short sighted and ineffective.