It seems like you two have different goals for yourself. Have you discussed goals and/or progress with your T?

L lets me set my own goals. For example, this years goal was being more direct. We also discussed my progress overall last session. She sometimes suggests things for me, but they are never expectations and she's never upset if I don't follow through.

L has also told me about the different stages of change that LT mentioned. That would be a good topic to bring up with your T!