The guy I'm dating has "borderline schizophrenia" and I found out there's another identity inside. I met him the other day while he was having a small meltdown. The Other is a Protector. He's going to therapy and has just about integrated everything except this one. This one takes care of him when things get too big and dark and frightening and sad. He said he didn't trust me, but I know he does a little because he's the voice on the phone when things get rough.

How should I handle this when it happens again? My first response was to keep talking, acknowledge the alter and hear what he had to say. I guess that was OK. I just don't know. It doesn't freak me out. Not at all! I just don't know what the healthy, helpful reaction is.

The only thing that was kinda weird to me is that the Protector told me that he wanted to have sex with me, but that my guy won't let him because he'd hurt me. Not any other time, he probably wouldn't hurt me - just for sex. That's a little scary and exciting at the same time. I'm kind of embarrassed about it. My guy asked what all we talked about and I left that out. I don't need to bring that up, do I?