I agree. My only reservation is that when I was at the hardest things in my therapy, talking about it, digging into it felt very dangerous. I remember thinking that if I wasn’t so in control of myself, I might have come undone. I remember thinking how dangerous it could be for an impulsive person to be in such a triggered state like I found myself in every time I talked about certain things.

Not to assume my husband will be the same way in therapy, and I do believe he wants counseling, he just is in too manic or worked up state to do well with it.

When he didn’t join the session, I believed him that he was not in a good state of mind and that it was better he didn’t attend that day.

Sometimes things are opposite around here.

It turned out to be good he skipped counseling because I was able to give the counselor the lowdown, which led to her saying that he should be on lithium. I told him what she said, and suddenly now he has made drs appts and scheduled group therapy (that was the dr’s choice) and has already done labs. He acts like he is making up for lost time around here in regards to house projects. He is quite irritable, again symptoms. He told me he thinks he has borderline and not bipolar like the dr’s said. He relates to the intense fear of abandonment and fear of being alone. Maybe he thinks counseling will lead to splitting up. Opposite thinking. Or maybe he just wants to improve so a third party won’t need to get involved.

Long story short…it looks like he is seeking the drs opinion about medication to stabilize, and will be shortly after doing group therapy. I think both appts are in December.