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From my own personal experience, I lived around dysfunctional parents for 21 years & a dysfunctional husband for another 33 years. Just living around that caused me to be dysfunctional just trying to exist. Honestly it gets old & I left. It took lots of therapy & finally finding people who were functional to be around to learn my functional skills that were hidden inside.
Compassion flies out the window..boundaries can help but their dysfunction always sucks us in & for me, created major depression & anxiety until I finally left & realized those years I struggled with mental illness, it was all situational from a situation I had no control over. It made me into someone I didn't like being, filled with anger & probably hate by that time. For me, my only way to take care of myself was to leave. We all have our own level of tolerance & reasons for it.....but for me it didn't get better because my feelings built on themselves & grew into a monster. It was like dropping a drop of water into a glass. At some point the glass gets full, then that last drop causes it to overflow & no amount of therapy changes those issues that are foundationally causing the problem & why should I tolerate what is intolerable? All questions we can ONLY answer for ourselves & our resolutions will each be individual for what we feel is best for us
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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