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Originally Posted by Molinit
There is no "solution" to this. And this is really your wife's problem now. If she wants a relationship with her family (and if you want one), you'll have to accept the family dysfunction as is.
Since that seems unacceptable to you, I would advise you to limit any contact severely or eliminate it. No more cabin talk. No more "helping" with the cabin. No buying outright or partially of the cabin. The cabin is out of the question. Assume that your BIL will get it when MIL dies. It will fall into disrepair and that's that.
What I read in your post is you are actually looking for a way to change THEM, but as you know this isn't going to happen. Move on with your own family life and stop giving those people space in your head.
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The cabin is a done deal. I cleared out my stuff the next day. I will never go back. Even if mil leaves it to my wife and her brother I will never go back. I can’t stand the guy.
Couldn’t care about mom either. Fool me once…… with the following caveat:
She did reach out for help and I’d like to give her one last lifeline as her behavior was completly out of character (or was it?) there’s also the possibility of early dementia (it’s in the family)
Not sure how I came across as wanting to change them? I know I won’t. He won’t change. He’s a lost cause. Especially at 40.
Was just shocked as mom was all “time to bring the hammer down” and initiated the plan. I stuck to the plan and did exactly what we all agreed on.
I got played for a fool