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Dec 11, 2021, 06:39 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
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And, as with my mum, with some people it’s difficult or even impossible to have those conversations around expressing anger/hurt in the first place, because they get defensive and shut things down.
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Yes, so many get defensive, actually justifying the dysfunction & excusing it away. Problem is that the damage it does doesn't go away until acknowledged & processed & dealt with.
I have been able to talk to my daughter about all the dysfunction she grew up around & it has been good for us....but we don't dwell on it any more. But I needed her to understand why I left her dad because his family made me out as the bad guy (my parents had both died by the time I left). She also needed to understand the dysfunction I had trying to live & how I realized it had effected her. Part of our healing process too. I actually love life now for the last 14 years....first time. So 2nd half of life can be a new beginning
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