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Originally Posted by Rive.
I hear that it is painful and causing a lot of heartache (you, your wife) despite you trying to help mom so many times. It is very unfortunate that mom is blind with regards to her son. But yes, sometimes the least painful thing to do is to disengage.
There is only so much one can do for another (i.e. mom playing helpless so you will help her and even Jeff is benefitting from that help) at the detriment of ourselves..
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I,never,thought,about this in the context of mom being a drama queen and thriving on it.
I took her seriously and at face value. Even throwing her deceased husband under the bus for the enabling.
And to be clear it doesn’t bother me at all. Mom and bil could die and I wouldn’t shed a tear.
My wife is upset and I’m willing to make some concessions to get her to a happy place.
But no More cabin and no more favors for mom on my part. I don’t want to enable baby Jeff.