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23 years of marriage, 30 years together overall. 2-3 months ago she said she was unhappy, yesterday she moved all her stuff out and went to her parents. She has refused all counseling and gets annoyed if I talk about anything but divorce. I want to believe that she is still coming off of a crisis for the past two years (which is a whole other story, but trust me, a LOT happened) so I am trying to give her space while still being there as a friend. I love her dearly and would be at least willing to try anything. The marriage ending is one thing, but her unwillingness to even try is crushing. Anybody ever have any success or life-lessons on letting her have space? Seems like the more I pull her back the more I push her away. How do I give her space without it feeling like I am giving up?