I just read a really great post on instagram from an unknown therapist that I follow that was very relevant to this topic and really resonated with me and what I feel I am doing so thought I would share...It said...

Blind compassion is one of my all time favourite unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I get to skip anger and go straight to self righteous 'understanding'? Yes please! My ego loves nothing better than evidence that I am 'so much better and more developed' than others.

Understanding that mistreatment usually comes from unhealthy coping mechanisms doesn't make it okay to be mistreated.

Be careful you don't bypass your own anger, need, for distance, or self-protectiveness by being overly compassionate.

Feel your anger, react in a way that honours what you need, THEN find compassion.

Jumping straight to understanding could be a defense mechanism that will keep you stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

I do sometimes think 'I'm just so compassionate and understanding of others' as if it is my super power when really perhaps it is partly an unhealthy coping mechanism to avoid feeling anger etc