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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
Right now I'm feeling ''ok'' which was unexpected (particularly today)... something today I have not been looking forward to. My h and I had a misunderstanding last night .... it's hard to talk to him after 8.00 pm  He watches TV and doesn't like being interrupted It's not his fault, he's a lovely man. I think he may have high functioning ASD. I have read about it and I recognise him in many of the symptoms (the more I read, the more I recognise him in many of the symptoms).
One example is that a, to me, very distant relationship that he has with his siblings does not bother him at all.
Maybe this bothers me so much as I do not have siblings. I had 2 half ''siblings'' who cut me out of their life with no explanation Given their parents (my step maternal unit was very abusive to me and later on to my father at times too.... he is extremely Narcissistic but her abuse seemed to silence him at times...) ... anyway given who their parents were I guess I can put their total neglect down to ''consider the source''.... I had thought we got on quite well when they were younger They cut me out at a particularly bad time (mother had cancer)
Someone on another board had suggested ''can't you JUST send them a Christmas card''.... NO. (the caps in ''just'' are mine.......) I had already sent them several (many?) Christmas cards, with no response. I do not know their address now anyway. Although they know our address since we have not moved for a long time (15 plus years) We like it here, the neighbours are ok and our house is surrounded by trees.
The neighbours in our last house were neighbours from hell.... |
This is how my uncle is. He was fine to my dad but never paid attention to my mom or my siblings and I. My grandma tried fixing things but the only thing that would go on would be birthday gift exchanges. My uncle and my dad became close after my grandma died and then my dad got sick. My uncle stayed in contact with us for about a week after my dad died but then cut off all contact for no reason despite living closer then any other relative. That was 7 years ago and we didnt even bother telling him we were moving. I am facebook friends with one of 2 cousins on that side but he never posts anything so I dont know what he does and doesnt know.
I try not to let it bug me since my moms side is the complete opposite. But at the same time its just confusing to us why he doesnt want anything to do with us when we havent done anything except get my dad to stop drinking.