My parents and grandparents think that if I ask for their opinion, it means I'm going to do what they say. But I ask them so I can weigh the pros and cons and their point of view is helpful in making an indepedent decision.

But this is a major issue with them. I ask everyone their thoughts--my parents, grandparents, and friends--to weigh the pros and cons from a variety of viewpoints and make a decision on my own. But my parents especially get mad when I don't do what they say. "Why bother asking if you don't do what we say?"

How do I clarify with them that I value what they say and would like their viewpoint but I'm not asking for a decision to be made by them?

Does this make sense?