Seeker1950, thank you for your concern, but I already knew what the site was about. Also, I did talk to my husband about it, and he told me that it was a site he was on years ago, when he was single, and he was no longer active there. He was quick to point out that the email I found was in his spam folder (doesn't even go to his inbox) and UNOPENED. He told me instead of assuming the worst, I should have asked him first, and he would have explained. I believe that, he has always told me the truth when confronted, but I reminded him that the issue was trust, and if we are going to have a new totally honest "friendship", he needs to tell me about everything in his past. Finding things here and there, figuring out his little white lies, as well as his "lies of omission" are what have made rebuilding trust in our marriage all but impossible.

And 50sguy, I feel like you're missing the point. The issue for me is more about trust than the nature of any "cyber conversations". When one spouse is having any sort of relationship with a member of the opposite sex that his/her partner doesn't know about, it's deceitful. And when that relationship crosses certain lines (ie. cyber sex, phone sex), that is definitely cheating in my opinion. My husband sharing his life with another woman INSTEAD of me, in any way, is cheating as far as I'm concerned, and hurts like hell.

If two people agree on certain things in their relationship, that's their business, and no one has the right to judge it. In my marriage however, these "indescretions" had been discussed, and it was agreed that it was cheating. My husband used them as an escape when things got tough, and broke our vows. That is the issue here for me.

Thank you all for your support, and your opinions. Once again, this forum is such a great place to get other opinions, views, and I value that more that anyone will ever know.